At one point or another we’ve all pined after a girl with a boyfriend. Sometimes it’s because the forbidden fruit seems that much sweeter and sometimes it’s because the girl is genuinely perfect and we want her more than anything. Most of the time we give up on the idea of being with her or just hooking up with her and move on but you don’t have to do that. With persistence and skill you can break up that relationship and have the girl for yourself.
However, before you take that step you need to do a little thinking. First, you need to make sure the boyfriend isn’t a maniac that will put a hurt on you for stealing his girlfriend away (which is what you’re doing). If there’s a chance you’ll catch a major beating it’s probably not worth it. After all, there are literally millions of single women in the world and there’s no chance this girl you’re pining after is so special that she’s worth getting beaten for. It’s also worth considering for one last time whether she’s actually worth it. You’re going to be hurting her boyfriend if you steal her away and any relationship that starts in cheating is likely to end that way too.
If after considering all of that you’ve decided she’s the one for you then it’s time to get started on hooking up with the hottie of your dreams. Your first step is to find a way to be around her or in contact with her as often as possible. That could mean working at her place of employment, being in her group of friends, etc. Physical contact is a must. Messages on social networks are nice but it won’t be nearly enough to convince her that cheating on her man is a wise move. You need to be around her to plant seeds of doubt and to help your own case. Its not easy buy very much possible to hook up with girls who have boy friends.
You should also find a way to contact her via email or text and keep it friendly. You want to build your relationship without ever hinting that you’d like to be more than friends. You’re just the good guy that wants to make her laugh, etc. If you can get to a point where she confides in you emotionally you’re guaranteed a hook up. She needs to feel close to you in a way that she is with few people in the world.
When you reach that point of emotional closeness you need to begin the campaign of doubt. Her boyfriend will make mistakes and if you hear about any of them you need to subtly suggest that he’s not the guy for her. If you’re over the top about it your intentions will be far too obvious, so avoid that. Your best bet is to try and fuel the embers of her discontent. If she feels like her boyfriend doesn’t understand her then you can be the guy that does understand her while suggesting that her current man is never going to understand her. Try your best to subtly plant negatives thoughts in her head about her current boyfriend and make yourself look great in comparison.
At some point you’ll need to make your move. It’s best to do so when she’s emotionally vulnerable and looking for the closeness that a true physical connection provides. You’ll need to time this perfectly and it could very well blow up in your face but that’s the sort of risk you take when working an operation of this nature. Once you’ve made your move you need to pull back. Don’t outwardly be the guy that wants to break up her relationship. Just be the guy that gave in to your intense feelings and doesn’t want to destroy anything. At some point she’ll tell her boyfriend, he’ll break up with her, and you can swoop in and have a new girlfriend.
Millions of words have been written over the years on the art of picking up women, seducing women, running game, etc. Every book purports to have a magical system that helps you nab the girl of your dreams or just the girl of your fantasies for that night. All those books and blogposts are helpful and might actually get you what you want but what they teach all comes down to one thing: confidence. It sounds so simple but if you really look at what you’re being taught it’s all about the confidence. Some guys need a system so they will appear confident. Some guys need a pep talk so they can feel confident. Some guys need specific lines to run so they don’t have to think and thus lose their confidence. That’s what it all comes down to though.
The art of picking up women is all about utilizing your confidence. When a guy uses the worst pickup line you’ve ever heard and the girl actually responds it means that he delivered it with confidence (sometimes it means that he’s incredibly good looking and he could have spilled gibberish from his mouth and picked her up but those guys are confident too so the lesson holds). Pickup lines are incredibly stupid but they serve a purpose: to break the ice. All you’re doing is finding a good way to introduce yourself to a girl. That’s why you can usually just introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink. A simple compliment is a good way to follow that up and segueing into conversation of almost any kind is recommended thereafter. Follow that formula for picking up women and you’ll be amazed at how often it works and at the very least gets you a nice talk with a lovely girl. If you don’t have much experience at this sort of thing you’ll need to practice but you’ll get where you need to be eventually so have faith.
Let’s get a little more specific now. It’s always been a good idea to make the first move but that’s true now more than ever. If you’re interested in a girl then go ahead and talk to her. Introduce yourself, buy her a drink, and start a conversation that gets you on the road to knowing her. If you want her number than ask for it. Don’t be afraid that you’re going to be rejected or that she’s going to feel like you’re somehow being sexist. You’re not; you’re being a man interested in a woman and that’s all there is to it.
You need to avoid being immature at all costs. There is truly no bigger turn off than an immature man. Some guys have an immature sense of humor; if you’re one of those guys you’ll need to table that. Making a girl laugh is great but if your only material is dick and fart jokes you need to put them away and come up with something else. I’m telling you, immaturity is like female repellent and will get you walked away from faster than you can believe. This is #1 to remember when picking up on girls.
Before you introduce yourself to a girl and try to start a conversation you’d be wise to know something about her. Watching her for a few minutes (not in a weird and leering way, of course) would be smart so you can pick up on her behavior and have something to mention when you approach would be smart. Picking up girls is an art take your time and do not rush. This sort of thing will take a little practice but it’s well worth it. Breaking the ice is the hardest part of this whole thing, along with getting comfortable with rejection, which will happen plenty when you put yourself out there.
Whether your goal on a date is to sleep with the girl that night (1 night stand) or start a long term relationship there are conversation topics you should always make an effort to steer clear of. If you make a mistake and get into a conversation about anything listed below you might be able to recover but more likely than not you’ll have created a speed bump that might derail your budding relationship. The list is in no particular order so stay clear of all of them whether you are on a date or sex date.
Politics – I said these topics were in no particular order but if you happen to disagree on politics you can put it at the top of the list of things not to talk about. In fact, even if you have the same political philosophies you should probably avoid it since almost everyone has a seriously hot button issue that can send them into a rage if they meet someone in opposition. Politics are irrational and in most cases people believe that their stance is unequivocally the right one, which means you can’t win.
Religion – Here’s another one to avoid at all costs. If she’s a devoutly religious person she might bring it up because she won’t be able to date a guy that’s not but otherwise you should steer clear of it. Much like politics, most people are completely inflexible when it comes to religion, which means you don’t so much have a conversation about it as you talk at each other about it, agree to disagree, and then stew in your animosity towards each other. That’s an inefficient way to build a long lasting relationship (or lay the groundwork for a sexual encounter).
Complaints – I know it’s a little broad but on a first date no one wants to hear you complain about your life, your job, your family, etc. Even if someone is a pessimist and destined to end up with one they don’t want to think about that on the first date. They want to think they’re optimistic and sunny and it’s pretty hard to think about a good future if you’re sitting across from someone that can do nothing but complain about life. Keep those to yourself, even if you had a bad day.
Past relationships – This one is not as universal as the three listed above but in general it’s a good idea to steer clear of past relationship talk on a first date. That’s particularly true if you’re looking for a long term relationship with your date. She doesn’t want to be thinking about your past girlfriends and how she compares to them, at least not at first. If you’re looking for casual sex then it’s not necessarily a deal breaker, particularly if the girl takes it as a challenge to be better in bed than past girls you’ve been with. That’s a risky tactic but can pay big dividends if it works.
Money – This isn’t always a deal breaker but most women don’t want to hear about your financial situation on a first date. It’s disappointing if you don’t have much money and you sound like a braggart if you have plenty of it. If you’re right in the middle then nobody cares. Let her figure out your financial situation from the way you dress, the car you drive, the restaurant you picked, etc.
Sex – If you’re angling for casual sex on this date then you’d think you could bring up the topic but it’s actually not a great idea. In that case you probably both know what you want but if you bring it up then you make it obvious and the girl can end up feeling like a slut, which almost no ladies want. If you’re looking for a long term relationship then you should never bring up sex on the first date, even if it you did meet her on a sex dating site. Let her be the one to bring it up, or simply let your actions speak for themselves.
Fake profiles abound on sex dating sites and they’re almost always of the female variety. Some are profiles used by the site to lure free members into paying and some are escorts looking to lure you into paying cold hard cash to spend some time inside of them. You join an adult dating site because you want free casual sex (outside of the membership fee, of course) so you’ll want to avoid any fake profiles and concentrate only on the real women.
This article will offer helpful tips but the best thing you can do is actually spend a lot of time on a sex dating site looking through profiles. The more you read the easier it will be to pick out the obviously fake ones and weed them out (with any luck the site you joined will offer a way to mark the fakes or ban them from your personal search results). You’ll be reading profiles before you send messages anyway so just be sure to pay attention to what you’re reading and build your experience.
Fake profiles created by the site to convince free members to join are usually of the too good to be true variety. They’re almost always sloppily done and the clues are always in the text. The girl will talk about how much she loves sex, sports, video games, etc. Her picture will generally be hot but not obviously professional. She’ll tell you that she’s a dirty girl willing to do just about anything as long as it feels good, etc. Those profiles are always fun to read and they’re always bullshit. A woman that loves sex and a whole bunch of guy stuff would not have to go on a sex dating site to get laid and her profile is a guaranteed fake.
Escorts make up a significant portion of the annoying fake profiles on casual sex dating sites. All the girls on there should be looking for sex without money but these babes know a captive audience when they see one so they pay for memberships and put up profiles. There are ways to weed them out though.
Always start with the pictures. The general rule of thumb is that if the picture looks professionally done then she’s probably a professional. Even if a regular girl has professional photos (maybe she’s an actress or a model of some sort) she’s almost certainly not going to post them on a sex dating site where anyone can see. If the girl is an escort that wants to look her best then she might post the photos on the dating site and she would use them to arouse you into messaging her despite your gut telling you that she’s full of it. On the opposite end of the spectrum you should generally skip over any profiles that offer no pictures at all. Every girl that leaves her pictures off has a reason but it’s not worth the messaging game. Just skip her and move on to someone willing to show her picture, even if it’s not a face picture.
Check the text of any profile on an adult dating site and you can find clues to possible fakeness. If there is any mention of a donation (sometimes called roses), if she uses dollar signs ($) anywhere in the profile, and if she mentions cab fare you should move on. These suggestions are meant to be subtle so the girl doesn’t get busted for coming right out and offering sex for money. They’re also reasons for you to skip that escort and find a girl that wants to have wonderful casual sex without charging you.
There’s a lot of work that goes into sleeping with a girl for the first time no matter how you’re doing it. Whether you meet her through an adult dating site, at a party, at a bar, etc, you’ll have to prove your worth before she’ll lie horizontal with you sans clothing. One of the skills you’ll have to display is the ability to have a conversation. It seems like a simple thing but every guy has blown it with at least a few women because he couldn’t keep the conversation flowing. It can send a slew of bad signals to the girl. You don’t like her enough to be interested in talking, you’re an idiot, you aren’t listening, etc. Any of the above and more can convince her to keep her legs closed and send you on your way even if you thought it was a sure thing.
When dealing with members of either sex a basic rule of conversation is that people love to talk about themselves. That’s why you can never go wrong steering the conversation to the girl and what interests her. This is where guys tend to get tripped up though. The ones that screw it up think that talking about her means that you ask a series of rapid fire questions in the hope of soaking up as much information as possible. What you’re really doing is both boring the girl and making her feel like you’re an interviewer questioning her for a job of a weird stalker that is far too interested in the minutiae of her life.
Instead you should direct the conversation to something she’s interested in. It’s best if the topic is more meaningful than the weather but you shouldn’t go too deep, at least not the first time you meet her. This is where listening comes in. You need to finely hone your listening skills so you can pick up on her interests and discuss them with her. She’ll give you more than enough information to bounce some of it back on her even if you don’t know the first thing about her favorite things in the world.
The best reason to be a good listener is that it impresses the person you’re talking to. It makes them feel liked, which often turns into them liking you. The mind can be a magical thing if you know how to work it just a little bit. Listening means you’re invested and being invested means that you like her and perhaps even more importantly, you care enough to devote yourself to listening.This is very important when sex dating.
When in conversation with a lovely lady you’d like to bring home make sure you offer eye contact frequently. Holding it for too long can be creepy but always check back in to make sure she’s interested and to show her that you’re interested too. Just like you she wants to know that you’re keen on her, that you’re eager to know more, and that you’d like to sleep with her, believe it or not.
If you’re in the mood for casual sex then it’s important you not let the conversation go on for too long. If you get too familiar then you become a friend or possible boyfriend and you quickly move out of the casual sex zone. Plus, if she’s interested in you persist in talking for hours without asking for her number she’s going to be absolutely certain that you’re not interested and she won’t believe it if and when you do ask for her number.
The vast majority of people want to have sex. Men and women the world over are interested in pleasurable coupling and the internet makes that easier than ever, particularly if you know what you’re doing. If you’re uninformed you’ve reached the right blogpost to change that fact and bring your knowledge to the place it needs to be for a successful sexual search online.
Read reviews of adult dating sites to find the one that works best for you. You’ll need to actually read the text, too. The review score is generally useless since they’re all pretty positive. Instead you want to know the details of how the site works, how many members there are, how often the women respond, etc. You would do well to sign up for multiple sites but since you have to pay you might just want to go with a single site and focus all your energy there. Put up a couple of good pictures that show your body without being naked or gross and put together a profile that is well-written and features good grammar, good spelling, and no internet speak (text abbreviations, mostly, are a great way of having your message ignored).
As a guy on an adult dating site looking to get laid on the internet you’ll be making first contact most of the time. The ladies get too many messages to be looking through profiles so it’s your job to get in contact. That means your first message needs to be good to break through the deluge they receive. Keep it short but make sure there’s some content in the message, not just a stupid line about how hot the girl is or how badly you want to have sex with her. She knows she’s hot and that you want to have sex with her or you wouldn’t be messaging her. Your job is to stand out from the massive number of guys that have sent her messages all looking for the same thing.
Your best bet is to peruse her profile carefully and pick out something you share in common or something that interests you. Comment on it and try to be witty and brief. That will show her that you put in enough effort to look through what she posted, that you guys have something in common, and that you’re bright enough to be witty. For a first contact you shouldn’t go any more in depth since you’ll need something to talk about later.
Don’t push for an in person or on the phone meeting too early. That sort of thing will creep a girl out and likely push her away. Give it enough time that you feel like you know her and assume she feels the same way and then ask. If she turns you down at that point you can move on (you should have multiple irons in the fire anyway).
You should always make sure that you’re clear about your desires without being pervy. If you want a relationship then let her know. If you’re looking for a sexual partner let her know that too. If she’s on an adult dating site then she’s likely not looking for a long term relationship so you don’t have to be coy about your desires. It’s best to know early on if your desires are compatible so you don’t waste more time than necessary. I mentioned earlier that you should have multiple irons in the fire. It’s worth mentioning again because it will help you avoid placing too much pressure or having your expectations too high with one particular girl. If you’re chatting with lots of ladies you’ll come across as confident and calm, two qualities that are much more likely to get you laid online.
Sometimes a woman wants a one night stand, believe or not. It’s true and if you play your cards right you can be the guy that hooks up with the hottie looking to have a great roll in the hay. Wouldn’t you like to be the guy that goes home with her? First and foremost you’ll need to be at least a little easy on the eyes. You don’t have to be a total hunk but you need to have something going for you physically so the fat guys with greasy hair and glasses should probably move to the next article. The rest of you should be good to go and the exceptionally handsome among you will have little trouble finding one night stands.
You need to be in the right place to find a one night stand with a hottie but thankfully there are lots of these. They include weddings, vacation destinations, night clubs with dancing, great parties, and random locations where you happen to be in the right place at the right time with a lady looking to blow off steam (yeah, women do that with sex too). In general any place where the libido is going to be high and the women feel good is bound to have a number of hotties looking to hook up.
You’ll need to do a little work to have your one night stand so you need to know which ladies to look for. In general this isn’t difficult. She’ll be the girl dancing a little too suggestively, drinking perhaps a little too much, and flirting with just about everyone with her eyes and her moves. The key to a one night stand is that most of the ladies looking to hook up anonymously want to be the pursuers. They want to take control and flip the usual situation, so don’t be afraid to let a girl be the aggressor and pursuer. If she wants you then it’s your duty to let her have you to whatever extent she desires. At some point she’ll make it pretty clear what she’s interested in and at that point you can take the lead and plant a kiss on her lips.
Before you get to that kiss there’s often an important step. At some point you should suggest (or she’ll be the one asking) to go to a second location, although that location should not be your home (that’s your third location). Choose a more intimate bar or club or a good spot you know that’s still public but allows for a bit of sexy making out between the two of you. When you get there be sure to order a couple of drinks and make your move (note that this step might be completely unnecessary depending on how aroused and eager the girl is; she might very well drag you back to her place from your original meeting location).
This seems counter intuitive to what men are taught, but at some point before you get naked together you should make it clear that you’re not interested in a girlfriend and just want to have some fun. That might sound like a crazy move sure to drive her away but if she wants a one night stand it will be exactly what she needs to hear to truly cut loose with you and have a good time. You’re clearing the decks for her to go wild by announcing your intentions without her having to do so. She’ll most likely take you back to her place and it’s the best bet for good sex since she’ll feel more comfortable. Once you’re there be sure to have fun and stay away from anything too dirty or naughty.
If you’re in a winter weather area of the world you’ve probably noticed that it gets a little more difficult to meet women in the winter months. The cold tends to keep people inside and everyone wears more clothing, which can actually lower libido and thus lower the desire to meet potential mates. That doesn’t mean people disappear though so if you’re in the right places you can meet plenty of women during the cold winter. Here are a few places to do so.
If you’re into any sort of winter sporting activities it’s a perfect place to meet lovely ladies in the winter . Common interests is the easiest way to relate to someone instantly. You have built in conversation and dates ready to go and the girl has a sense that you know her even if it’s not the slightest bit true. If you’re a skier you’ll meet plenty of ladies on the slopes and if you’re just a little charming you’ll soon have plenty of numbers to keep you busy when you’re not skiing. Less rigorous activities like snowball fights, the making of snowmen, or simply messing around in the snow at the park are a great way to meet women in the winter.
The gym is always a good place to meet women but that’s even truer during the winter. Fit girls are the best kind when it comes to sex and during the winter the gym tends to get a little more crowded as it’s difficult to get exercise outdoors. The gym is a great place because she knows without having to ask that you care about looking good and being healthy. You’re there and dedicated to taking care of your body and she can see it unfold right in front of her eyes, all of which is a good thing when it comes to making a connection with a girl you like.
During the cold months of the year coffee shops tend to swell with people looking to get warm through the consumption of hot beverages. Plus, coffee shops often cater to a specific type of person so you can pick one based on the type of girl you want to date. Some will be stuffed with business babes and others with hipster chicks and others with sporty types. If you’re in a big enough city you can get mighty specific with your desires and float from coffee shop to coffee shop looking for the girl of your dreams and enjoying fine beverages throughout your journey. When you find the right girl you can ask her out or just buy her a coffee and have your first date right there.
Planned social gatherings are far more popular in the cold months. When it’s warm you can just go to a restaurant with nice outdoor seating and have a luxurious evening drinking wine and enjoying good food but when it gets cold you need to plan a little more. You can plan those parties and have people you know bring someone new to help you find dates. Organizations around your town and city will likely throw winter events you can attend in hopes of finding a sexy single in the mood for a new man to have fun with.
While the winter months can bring down the libido and slow down the procession of beauties rolling through your life you can certainly find plenty of women to have fun with when it gets cold. It might take a little more effort but if you’re willing to put in the work you might meet even more women than in the summer. Now is the time to do that work!
One of the best reasons to regularly hit up the beach is the preponderance of available and willing women you’ll find there. There’s something about the sun, sand, surf, and skin exposed that makes a certain kind of girl feel loose, free, and horny and you can take advantage of that if you play your cards right. I’ve always thought the exposure of so much skin is a big reason everyone at the beach feels a little more free, open, and horny than usual. Girls in bikinis are basically in their underwear and some even choose to wear thongs. It’s a confidence builder to walk around nearly nude and the guys aren’t exactly dressed up either with their shirts gone and their bodies exposed. You get a pretty good idea of what someone is going to look like naked when you’re at the beach, which takes away a layer of question when it comes to getting laid at the beach.
Merely being at the beach does a lot of the work for you in terms of hooking up but you’ll have to take it the rest of the way. First you need to direct your efforts towards a girl that’s likely to receive them warmly. Make sure she’s not way better looking than you (self defeating guys will always go for the girl that’s way too hot for them and they never succeed) and try a little flirtation. If she responds then you’re probably good to go with a harder push. If you want to hang back a little then keep an eye on her and see how she moves, how she responds to others, etc. If you’re good at picking up on physical cues you’ll be able to tell if she’s in the mood or if she just wants to hang out in the sun. If she’s throwing back a few beers you have a much better chance of making the magic happen.
The opening line is the most difficult part of turning flirtation into a hook up. At the beach you should probably toss aside any night club junk. Pickup lines only really work for exceptionally good looking guys anyway so forget about them. You could try offering her a drink (water, beer, whatever) or simply introducing yourself and asking something innocuous. The point is to make an introduction without looking like an idiot or sounding like a sex-crazed pervert (unless you’re an insanely good looking guy with a perfect body, in which case you can say just about anything and ensure a hookup with just about anyone). Once you’ve made the introduction and she seems friendly to your advances you’re halfway home.
The key to making a hookup work is moving to a second location. If you’re familiar with the beach and you know of something interesting to show the girl then invite her to see it. If she accepts then it’s time to make that hookup happen. Try a little physical contact as you make your way to this spot and if she warms to it then plant a kiss on her when you arrive at your destination. If you happen to live near the beach you can find a good time to invite her back there if you want to make that hook up into a night of amazingly hot sex. If you happen to be on the beach at night for a bonfire or something similar then you’re free to roam away from the light and hook up anywhere you please. In fact, hooking up with a girl you meet at the beach is much, much easier if you’re doing it at night.
Girls go out in groups of two, three, four, or more for a variety of reasons, all of them good. They want protection, they feel more comfortable together, and they simply have more fun together being among those reasons. Some guys look at the girlfriends (or wingwomen) as a major roadblock in their quest to get laid but it that’s attitude specifically that often derails them, not the friend. If you view the girl sitting next to the one you’re interested in as an impediment and you treat her as such then there’s a good chance she’s not going to like you and she’s not going to approve of her friend going home with you. If you treat her like another person to meet and be friendly with then she’s far more likely to give you the thumbs up and send her girlfriend away with you.
Your first task is to wash the phrase cock blocking from your mind. The other girl isn’t cock blocking but instead looking out for her friend and trying to protect her from assault, heartbreak, etc. You should treat both ladies with equal amounts of respect and shower them both with praise because you need to win them both over. Sure, it makes your task that much more difficult but in reality it’s not that tough. Just be charming, nice, and joyful and you’ll go home with a beautiful woman and spend your evening in the throes of erotic passion. What’s better than that?
Human beings respond to positivity in an overwhelmingly positive and happy manner so if you walk up to a pair of lovely women sitting at the bar and begin chatting them both up, complimenting them both, and buying them both drinks you’re way ahead of the game. If you approach them an proceed to completely ignore one because she’s a cock blocker then you’ve probably pissed them both off since no girl wants to see her friend slighted (most women don’t want that, at least).
Let’s get a little more specific. When girls go out together one of their primary concerns is ensuring the safety of the other. Women are rightfully afraid of being the victims of sexual crimes and when you approach them at a bar you’re almost immediately being sized up for your criminal potential. They might not be conscious of that but it’s happening so you need to be cognizant of that when you make your approach. Avoid signs of overt aggression and don’t be a cocky idiot; it’s a tiny percentage of women that responds to that tactic and the chances of two girls going for it and giving you mutual approval is miniscule. If you work to make both girls feel safe and at ease then you have a much better chance of going home with one of them. The last thing you want is the best cock blocking friend pulling your desired lady aside and telling her that you just don’t seem safe. Always remember that you’re working on both girls even if you only want to bring one of them home.
The best thing you can do to defeat a cock blocking friend is to become friends with her. Obviously you don’t get to know someone that well in a bar or night club and you won’t actually be friends with her when the night is over but you can certainly win her over to the point that she’ll approve of you going home with her friend. It’s simple: you get more bees with honey. Remember that little nugget of information and you’ll have much greater luck approaching friends hoping to bring one of them home for a hook up.
