What To Do If Your Girl Is Terrible In Bed
There is an old joke about how there is no bad sex and technically that’s true but we all know there have been times when it could have been better. It’s a big let-down when you meet an incredibly hot woman, sit and have incredibly witty, sexually charged conversation all night and then take her home to find a limp fish. It’s even worse to be in a relationship with a woman and love everything about her but have a lukewarm sex life. Expert research has shown us that sex plays a big part in a relationship and both partners being happy with the sexual aspect is imperative to success. Men must be with a woman who is enjoying herself and happy to be with him before he can reach orgasm. If your girl is terrible in bed, the key is to decide if you care enough about her to fix the problem.
Let her know you enjoy being with her and admire her shape, size and figure. Tell her she is beautiful. Expound on her lovely lips and luscious hips. Relate those dirty day dreams you have about her and don’t be afraid to tell her how proud you are to have out in public. Don’t leave out her personality perks, either. If you love how smart she is or she has a great sense of humor make sure to tell her. Anything and everything about her you find endearing should cross your lips to her ears at least once. This part is not easy. It takes time for people to truly understand when they are being loved unconditionally. When she sees how much you appreciate her, she will begin to appreciate herself. Once she feels comfortable in her own skin and realizes how attracted you are to her, she will at ease in bed and actually want to get more involved and try new things.
The first step is to begin to gently prod her in bed. Lightly move her toward things she may feel uncomfortable or inadequate doing. You must start out slow here. Even if you have been with this woman for a considerable amount of time, this is an area you must travel with caution. Moving too fast will derail your whole operation but moving to slow will stall out the passion and momentum. Begin with simple things like kissing a bit deeper or in a different manner or place. Touch her in a different tempo and manner than you usually do. Encourage her to do the same. It will be uncomfortable at first and you may have to physically guide her hands but enjoy the newness and excitement of shaking things up. It helps to use verbal cues to let her know how much you like what she’s doing and encourage her to continue. Eventually you will be able to get her to do more daring things and even share with you some of her needs.
Another tactic is to watch dirty movies and porn together. If she seems interested let her know you’re up for anything and would love to try it out with her. Along this same vein, you can discuss sexually explicit literature, current events and news items to open the dialogue between you two. Purchase an adult magazine together and peruse the pages. Talk about what you see and read and pay off what you learn. Inspire her to be fun and frisky. Interact playfully with an open heart. You can also visit adult toy shops and venture into the world of erotic massage. These exercises not only bring you closer sexually but romantically as well. It puts you in tune with each other like nothing else can.
As a very last resort you can just spill the beans and tell her she is bad in bed and you’d like to work on it. If all else fails and nothing you try works, there may be other issues at play. Telling her may be the only option you have. If so, tread carefully. Do not tell her during a fight, and never under any circumstances tell anyone else. Find a nice, upbeat day and break the news to her in a way that she can understand that doesn’t sound like she is failing. Explain that you need more creativity or would like to try something new and think she would be particularly hot at it. This is a difficult task to undertake but it can be done.