Whether your goal on a date is to sleep with the girl that night (1 night stand) or start a long term relationship there are conversation topics you should always make an effort to steer clear of. If you make a mistake and get into a conversation about anything listed below you might be able to recover but more likely than not you’ll have created a speed bump that might derail your budding relationship. The list is in no particular order so stay clear of all of them whether you are on a date or sex date.
Politics – I said these topics were in no particular order but if you happen to disagree on politics you can put it at the top of the list of things not to talk about. In fact, even if you have the same political philosophies you should probably avoid it since almost everyone has a seriously hot button issue that can send them into a rage if they meet someone in opposition. Politics are irrational and in most cases people believe that their stance is unequivocally the right one, which means you can’t win.
Religion – Here’s another one to avoid at all costs. If she’s a devoutly religious person she might bring it up because she won’t be able to date a guy that’s not but otherwise you should steer clear of it. Much like politics, most people are completely inflexible when it comes to religion, which means you don’t so much have a conversation about it as you talk at each other about it, agree to disagree, and then stew in your animosity towards each other. That’s an inefficient way to build a long lasting relationship (or lay the groundwork for a sexual encounter).
Complaints – I know it’s a little broad but on a first date no one wants to hear you complain about your life, your job, your family, etc. Even if someone is a pessimist and destined to end up with one they don’t want to think about that on the first date. They want to think they’re optimistic and sunny and it’s pretty hard to think about a good future if you’re sitting across from someone that can do nothing but complain about life. Keep those to yourself, even if you had a bad day.
Past relationships – This one is not as universal as the three listed above but in general it’s a good idea to steer clear of past relationship talk on a first date. That’s particularly true if you’re looking for a long term relationship with your date. She doesn’t want to be thinking about your past girlfriends and how she compares to them, at least not at first. If you’re looking for casual sex then it’s not necessarily a deal breaker, particularly if the girl takes it as a challenge to be better in bed than past girls you’ve been with. That’s a risky tactic but can pay big dividends if it works.
Money – This isn’t always a deal breaker but most women don’t want to hear about your financial situation on a first date. It’s disappointing if you don’t have much money and you sound like a braggart if you have plenty of it. If you’re right in the middle then nobody cares. Let her figure out your financial situation from the way you dress, the car you drive, the restaurant you picked, etc.
Sex – If you’re angling for casual sex on this date then you’d think you could bring up the topic but it’s actually not a great idea. In that case you probably both know what you want but if you bring it up then you make it obvious and the girl can end up feeling like a slut, which almost no ladies want. If you’re looking for a long term relationship then you should never bring up sex on the first date, even if it you did meet her on a sex dating site. Let her be the one to bring it up, or simply let your actions speak for themselves.
Fake profiles abound on sex dating sites and they’re almost always of the female variety. Some are profiles used by the site to lure free members into paying and some are escorts looking to lure you into paying cold hard cash to spend some time inside of them. You join an adult dating site because you want free casual sex (outside of the membership fee, of course) so you’ll want to avoid any fake profiles and concentrate only on the real women.
This article will offer helpful tips but the best thing you can do is actually spend a lot of time on a sex dating site looking through profiles. The more you read the easier it will be to pick out the obviously fake ones and weed them out (with any luck the site you joined will offer a way to mark the fakes or ban them from your personal search results). You’ll be reading profiles before you send messages anyway so just be sure to pay attention to what you’re reading and build your experience.
Fake profiles created by the site to convince free members to join are usually of the too good to be true variety. They’re almost always sloppily done and the clues are always in the text. The girl will talk about how much she loves sex, sports, video games, etc. Her picture will generally be hot but not obviously professional. She’ll tell you that she’s a dirty girl willing to do just about anything as long as it feels good, etc. Those profiles are always fun to read and they’re always bullshit. A woman that loves sex and a whole bunch of guy stuff would not have to go on a sex dating site to get laid and her profile is a guaranteed fake.
Escorts make up a significant portion of the annoying fake profiles on casual sex dating sites. All the girls on there should be looking for sex without money but these babes know a captive audience when they see one so they pay for memberships and put up profiles. There are ways to weed them out though.
Always start with the pictures. The general rule of thumb is that if the picture looks professionally done then she’s probably a professional. Even if a regular girl has professional photos (maybe she’s an actress or a model of some sort) she’s almost certainly not going to post them on a sex dating site where anyone can see. If the girl is an escort that wants to look her best then she might post the photos on the dating site and she would use them to arouse you into messaging her despite your gut telling you that she’s full of it. On the opposite end of the spectrum you should generally skip over any profiles that offer no pictures at all. Every girl that leaves her pictures off has a reason but it’s not worth the messaging game. Just skip her and move on to someone willing to show her picture, even if it’s not a face picture.
Check the text of any profile on an adult dating site and you can find clues to possible fakeness. If there is any mention of a donation (sometimes called roses), if she uses dollar signs ($) anywhere in the profile, and if she mentions cab fare you should move on. These suggestions are meant to be subtle so the girl doesn’t get busted for coming right out and offering sex for money. They’re also reasons for you to skip that escort and find a girl that wants to have wonderful casual sex without charging you.
The vast majority of people want to have sex. Men and women the world over are interested in pleasurable coupling and the internet makes that easier than ever, particularly if you know what you’re doing. If you’re uninformed you’ve reached the right blogpost to change that fact and bring your knowledge to the place it needs to be for a successful sexual search online.
Read reviews of adult dating sites to find the one that works best for you. You’ll need to actually read the text, too. The review score is generally useless since they’re all pretty positive. Instead you want to know the details of how the site works, how many members there are, how often the women respond, etc. You would do well to sign up for multiple sites but since you have to pay you might just want to go with a single site and focus all your energy there. Put up a couple of good pictures that show your body without being naked or gross and put together a profile that is well-written and features good grammar, good spelling, and no internet speak (text abbreviations, mostly, are a great way of having your message ignored).
As a guy on an adult dating site looking to get laid on the internet you’ll be making first contact most of the time. The ladies get too many messages to be looking through profiles so it’s your job to get in contact. That means your first message needs to be good to break through the deluge they receive. Keep it short but make sure there’s some content in the message, not just a stupid line about how hot the girl is or how badly you want to have sex with her. She knows she’s hot and that you want to have sex with her or you wouldn’t be messaging her. Your job is to stand out from the massive number of guys that have sent her messages all looking for the same thing.
Your best bet is to peruse her profile carefully and pick out something you share in common or something that interests you. Comment on it and try to be witty and brief. That will show her that you put in enough effort to look through what she posted, that you guys have something in common, and that you’re bright enough to be witty. For a first contact you shouldn’t go any more in depth since you’ll need something to talk about later.
Don’t push for an in person or on the phone meeting too early. That sort of thing will creep a girl out and likely push her away. Give it enough time that you feel like you know her and assume she feels the same way and then ask. If she turns you down at that point you can move on (you should have multiple irons in the fire anyway).
You should always make sure that you’re clear about your desires without being pervy. If you want a relationship then let her know. If you’re looking for a sexual partner let her know that too. If she’s on an adult dating site then she’s likely not looking for a long term relationship so you don’t have to be coy about your desires. It’s best to know early on if your desires are compatible so you don’t waste more time than necessary. I mentioned earlier that you should have multiple irons in the fire. It’s worth mentioning again because it will help you avoid placing too much pressure or having your expectations too high with one particular girl. If you’re chatting with lots of ladies you’ll come across as confident and calm, two qualities that are much more likely to get you laid online.
Sometimes a woman wants a one night stand, believe or not. It’s true and if you play your cards right you can be the guy that hooks up with the hottie looking to have a great roll in the hay. Wouldn’t you like to be the guy that goes home with her? First and foremost you’ll need to be at least a little easy on the eyes. You don’t have to be a total hunk but you need to have something going for you physically so the fat guys with greasy hair and glasses should probably move to the next article. The rest of you should be good to go and the exceptionally handsome among you will have little trouble finding one night stands.
You need to be in the right place to find a one night stand with a hottie but thankfully there are lots of these. They include weddings, vacation destinations, night clubs with dancing, great parties, and random locations where you happen to be in the right place at the right time with a lady looking to blow off steam (yeah, women do that with sex too). In general any place where the libido is going to be high and the women feel good is bound to have a number of hotties looking to hook up.
You’ll need to do a little work to have your one night stand so you need to know which ladies to look for. In general this isn’t difficult. She’ll be the girl dancing a little too suggestively, drinking perhaps a little too much, and flirting with just about everyone with her eyes and her moves. The key to a one night stand is that most of the ladies looking to hook up anonymously want to be the pursuers. They want to take control and flip the usual situation, so don’t be afraid to let a girl be the aggressor and pursuer. If she wants you then it’s your duty to let her have you to whatever extent she desires. At some point she’ll make it pretty clear what she’s interested in and at that point you can take the lead and plant a kiss on her lips.
Before you get to that kiss there’s often an important step. At some point you should suggest (or she’ll be the one asking) to go to a second location, although that location should not be your home (that’s your third location). Choose a more intimate bar or club or a good spot you know that’s still public but allows for a bit of sexy making out between the two of you. When you get there be sure to order a couple of drinks and make your move (note that this step might be completely unnecessary depending on how aroused and eager the girl is; she might very well drag you back to her place from your original meeting location).
This seems counter intuitive to what men are taught, but at some point before you get naked together you should make it clear that you’re not interested in a girlfriend and just want to have some fun. That might sound like a crazy move sure to drive her away but if she wants a one night stand it will be exactly what she needs to hear to truly cut loose with you and have a good time. You’re clearing the decks for her to go wild by announcing your intentions without her having to do so. She’ll most likely take you back to her place and it’s the best bet for good sex since she’ll feel more comfortable. Once you’re there be sure to have fun and stay away from anything too dirty or naughty.
If you’re in a winter weather area of the world you’ve probably noticed that it gets a little more difficult to meet women in the winter months. The cold tends to keep people inside and everyone wears more clothing, which can actually lower libido and thus lower the desire to meet potential mates. That doesn’t mean people disappear though so if you’re in the right places you can meet plenty of women during the cold winter. Here are a few places to do so.
If you’re into any sort of winter sporting activities it’s a perfect place to meet lovely ladies in the winter . Common interests is the easiest way to relate to someone instantly. You have built in conversation and dates ready to go and the girl has a sense that you know her even if it’s not the slightest bit true. If you’re a skier you’ll meet plenty of ladies on the slopes and if you’re just a little charming you’ll soon have plenty of numbers to keep you busy when you’re not skiing. Less rigorous activities like snowball fights, the making of snowmen, or simply messing around in the snow at the park are a great way to meet women in the winter.
The gym is always a good place to meet women but that’s even truer during the winter. Fit girls are the best kind when it comes to sex and during the winter the gym tends to get a little more crowded as it’s difficult to get exercise outdoors. The gym is a great place because she knows without having to ask that you care about looking good and being healthy. You’re there and dedicated to taking care of your body and she can see it unfold right in front of her eyes, all of which is a good thing when it comes to making a connection with a girl you like.
During the cold months of the year coffee shops tend to swell with people looking to get warm through the consumption of hot beverages. Plus, coffee shops often cater to a specific type of person so you can pick one based on the type of girl you want to date. Some will be stuffed with business babes and others with hipster chicks and others with sporty types. If you’re in a big enough city you can get mighty specific with your desires and float from coffee shop to coffee shop looking for the girl of your dreams and enjoying fine beverages throughout your journey. When you find the right girl you can ask her out or just buy her a coffee and have your first date right there.
Planned social gatherings are far more popular in the cold months. When it’s warm you can just go to a restaurant with nice outdoor seating and have a luxurious evening drinking wine and enjoying good food but when it gets cold you need to plan a little more. You can plan those parties and have people you know bring someone new to help you find dates. Organizations around your town and city will likely throw winter events you can attend in hopes of finding a sexy single in the mood for a new man to have fun with.
While the winter months can bring down the libido and slow down the procession of beauties rolling through your life you can certainly find plenty of women to have fun with when it gets cold. It might take a little more effort but if you’re willing to put in the work you might meet even more women than in the summer. Now is the time to do that work!
One of the best reasons to regularly hit up the beach is the preponderance of available and willing women you’ll find there. There’s something about the sun, sand, surf, and skin exposed that makes a certain kind of girl feel loose, free, and horny and you can take advantage of that if you play your cards right. I’ve always thought the exposure of so much skin is a big reason everyone at the beach feels a little more free, open, and horny than usual. Girls in bikinis are basically in their underwear and some even choose to wear thongs. It’s a confidence builder to walk around nearly nude and the guys aren’t exactly dressed up either with their shirts gone and their bodies exposed. You get a pretty good idea of what someone is going to look like naked when you’re at the beach, which takes away a layer of question when it comes to getting laid at the beach.
Merely being at the beach does a lot of the work for you in terms of hooking up but you’ll have to take it the rest of the way. First you need to direct your efforts towards a girl that’s likely to receive them warmly. Make sure she’s not way better looking than you (self defeating guys will always go for the girl that’s way too hot for them and they never succeed) and try a little flirtation. If she responds then you’re probably good to go with a harder push. If you want to hang back a little then keep an eye on her and see how she moves, how she responds to others, etc. If you’re good at picking up on physical cues you’ll be able to tell if she’s in the mood or if she just wants to hang out in the sun. If she’s throwing back a few beers you have a much better chance of making the magic happen.
The opening line is the most difficult part of turning flirtation into a hook up. At the beach you should probably toss aside any night club junk. Pickup lines only really work for exceptionally good looking guys anyway so forget about them. You could try offering her a drink (water, beer, whatever) or simply introducing yourself and asking something innocuous. The point is to make an introduction without looking like an idiot or sounding like a sex-crazed pervert (unless you’re an insanely good looking guy with a perfect body, in which case you can say just about anything and ensure a hookup with just about anyone). Once you’ve made the introduction and she seems friendly to your advances you’re halfway home.
The key to making a hookup work is moving to a second location. If you’re familiar with the beach and you know of something interesting to show the girl then invite her to see it. If she accepts then it’s time to make that hookup happen. Try a little physical contact as you make your way to this spot and if she warms to it then plant a kiss on her when you arrive at your destination. If you happen to live near the beach you can find a good time to invite her back there if you want to make that hook up into a night of amazingly hot sex. If you happen to be on the beach at night for a bonfire or something similar then you’re free to roam away from the light and hook up anywhere you please. In fact, hooking up with a girl you meet at the beach is much, much easier if you’re doing it at night.
Girls go out in groups of two, three, four, or more for a variety of reasons, all of them good. They want protection, they feel more comfortable together, and they simply have more fun together being among those reasons. Some guys look at the girlfriends (or wingwomen) as a major roadblock in their quest to get laid but it that’s attitude specifically that often derails them, not the friend. If you view the girl sitting next to the one you’re interested in as an impediment and you treat her as such then there’s a good chance she’s not going to like you and she’s not going to approve of her friend going home with you. If you treat her like another person to meet and be friendly with then she’s far more likely to give you the thumbs up and send her girlfriend away with you.
Your first task is to wash the phrase cock blocking from your mind. The other girl isn’t cock blocking but instead looking out for her friend and trying to protect her from assault, heartbreak, etc. You should treat both ladies with equal amounts of respect and shower them both with praise because you need to win them both over. Sure, it makes your task that much more difficult but in reality it’s not that tough. Just be charming, nice, and joyful and you’ll go home with a beautiful woman and spend your evening in the throes of erotic passion. What’s better than that?
Human beings respond to positivity in an overwhelmingly positive and happy manner so if you walk up to a pair of lovely women sitting at the bar and begin chatting them both up, complimenting them both, and buying them both drinks you’re way ahead of the game. If you approach them an proceed to completely ignore one because she’s a cock blocker then you’ve probably pissed them both off since no girl wants to see her friend slighted (most women don’t want that, at least).
Let’s get a little more specific. When girls go out together one of their primary concerns is ensuring the safety of the other. Women are rightfully afraid of being the victims of sexual crimes and when you approach them at a bar you’re almost immediately being sized up for your criminal potential. They might not be conscious of that but it’s happening so you need to be cognizant of that when you make your approach. Avoid signs of overt aggression and don’t be a cocky idiot; it’s a tiny percentage of women that responds to that tactic and the chances of two girls going for it and giving you mutual approval is miniscule. If you work to make both girls feel safe and at ease then you have a much better chance of going home with one of them. The last thing you want is the best cock blocking friend pulling your desired lady aside and telling her that you just don’t seem safe. Always remember that you’re working on both girls even if you only want to bring one of them home.
The best thing you can do to defeat a cock blocking friend is to become friends with her. Obviously you don’t get to know someone that well in a bar or night club and you won’t actually be friends with her when the night is over but you can certainly win her over to the point that she’ll approve of you going home with her friend. It’s simple: you get more bees with honey. Remember that little nugget of information and you’ll have much greater luck approaching friends hoping to bring one of them home for a hook up.
I’m certain you’ve seen a beautiful woman walking down the street and lusted after her like never before. If you live in the right city this probably happens every day (like in the West Village of NYC, for instance). It’s high time you put a stop to all that wishing and hoping and do something about it. It’s time you learn to approach a woman in the street and make something happen.
Before you dedicate yourself to this most lofty of goals you need to accept that you will fail and often with great frequency. You’ll be stopping married women, women with boyfriends, etc. Most of these women will not end up giving you their number or walking away having said yes to a date but you’re also not going to ask most of these women out. You’re going to exercise your social muscles, you’re going to talk to beautiful women, and you’re going to make dates with some of them. In a few cases you might get exceptionally lucky and end up meeting and hooking up with a girl you meet on the street on that very day.
The approach is the easiest part. You’re not going to deliver a cheesy line of any type and you’re not going to stage some stupid accident. You’re simply going to approach the woman and say “excuse me”. You’re going to deliver those two words in a strong voice and do it confidently, although you’ll need to ensure you don’t come across as angry or bossy. Oddly enough, two simple words can be interpreted in a vast number of ways. She could think of you as a whiny wimp, a bossy jerk, or a confident man with something to say. You want it to be the third.
Every person you say “excuse me” to is going to give you their attention. Unless they think you’re talking to someone else or they’re lost in an iPod they’ll look at you and listen to what you have to say at the very least. They might assume that you’re a crazy person about to ask for money or say something offensive but they’ll give you a second of your time. It’s once you’ve got their attention that you have to deliver so you always need to be ready with that second line.
There’s no hard and fast rule as to what you should say once you have her attention. That’s what practice is for. If you want to be really forward you could try complimenting something about her, although if she’s beautiful and you tell her so she’s not going to be impressed because she’s heard it thousands of times. I like to start with something simple like asking her for the time or asking for directions somewhere. People enjoy helping others and when she gives you that little bit of assistance it will create a sense of warmth in her towards you. Seriously, it works. Once you’ve done that she’ll be even more receptive to a follow up and at that point you can make a move of some sort, although you should keep it subtle and simple.
There’s honestly no harm in simply asking her out. If she’s available and she’s even remotely attracted to you chances are good she’ll say yes if for no other reason than she’s so surprised you actually asked her. That’s a great way to make a connection and make a date. You don’t need to rely on blind dates or the internet when you have the confidence to ask someone out you saw on the street. It’s that confidence that will get you the date, too. Plus, if you make it to a relationship you’ll have a cute story about how you lied about needing directions or the time just so you could talk to her when you .
It’s like a badge of honor when you get a girl’s number . You can parade it around to your friends and play the part of the charming stud that managed to convince a beauty to hand over her digits in the hope that you’ll call her tomorrow and setup a date. Of course, anyone with a history of looking for ladies to love knows that quite often you’re given a fake number or a blatantly wrong number because the girl wasn’t interested and didn’t want to come right out and say no. She just wanted to blow you off without any hassle.
It’s a small victory to get a girl’s number but it’s a huge victory when the girl gives you her number without you having to ask for it . That’s rare and blissful and should be cherished by anyone that pulls it off. Would you like to know how to do it? Not every guy can make it happen but there is something of an art to getting a girl’s number without asking for it. Read on to get some insight into that art.
This isn’t a hard and fast rule but in general it helps to look more like a bad boy. More than any other type of guy the bad boy is the one that makes girls do stupid things they wouldn’t normally do. There’s something that goes on at the subconscious level that makes the bad boy irresistible and thus much more likely to get a number handed to him. Guys that are actually that way almost never end up with a successful long term relationship but that’s not what we’re talking about here so it doesn’t really matter. If you can’t pull off that look then don’t try because you’ll just look like an idiot.
You’ll need to work to make yourself look and seem attractive without it seeming like you’re openly flirting with the girl. That sounds more difficult than it is. Sometimes it’s as simple as dropping a few words from a sentence. One tactic a lot of guys use is picturing a future couple (we would have a great time together in Europe). It’s exceptionally effective but it ensures that you’ll need to ask for her number because you’re making it clear you’re already thinking about being with her. If you shift that a little bit to talk about an exciting future or your exciting life while leaving her out you put the onus on her to pursue you, thus having to give you her number. The trick is to talk about your exciting life and leave her out of it while still making it seem like you want to be with her. That’s something that takes practice so you’ll have to work on it to get it just right.
If you can drop a few hints that make the girl worry less about rejection it would be a smart move. Saying something simple about how you’re only available for a few weeks will give you a good chance at a once night stand or brief sexual relationship type of thing. You should also give her a chance to slip you her number while no one else can see so she doesn’t have to worry about any embarrassment. Most of the time women are asked for their numbers so she would be going outside the norm if she gives it up without being asked. Be kind and let her do that in private and you have a better chance of receiving it and down the road hopefully hooking up.
If you’ve ever been to a bar in your life then you’ve probably met a woman there you wanted to sleep with that very night. If you’re reading this article then chances are good you didn’t get to sleep with that woman and you want to know how to make it happen in the future. It’s easier than you might think and hopefully when you’re done here you’ll be armed with the tools to make it happen (although it will likely take some practice so be prepared for more failure before you become the seducer of your dreams).
The reason it’s easier than you think is that there are plenty of women out there that really want to go home with a guy, have a night of great sex, and head out the next morning without even having breakfast (or leave the night before to go home and sleep in her own bed). Your job isn’t so much to seduce her into doing something she wouldn’t normally do (even if she delivers that old line about never having one night stands) but to show her that you’re the kind of guy that can give her a good time and a few orgasms and not turn into a clingy weirdo or do something she’s not comfortable with.
Guys in bars are often tempted to deliver a pickup line. Most of the time it’s a bad idea because you make it so obvious that you’re only in the mood for sex and while the woman may be feeling the same way she doesn’t want everyone to know it. In fact, she doesn’t even want you to know it right away. Instead of a pickup line you should simply introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink. It’s simple and straightforward and if she’s interested she’ll let you buy that drink. Now that you know she’s interested you can actually do something and get closer to bringing her home.
It’s always helpful to differentiate yourself from the rest of the guys when you are picking up woman at the bar. Think of all the guys as roughly the same. The one that does the most to stand out in her mind is the one that gets to go home with her. There are many ways you could stand out and you really only need to choose one. If you know a good joke you might tell it. If you know a magic trick go ahead and do it. If you know some fun fact then drop it on her. If you do something exceptionally weird (but not creepy) that might be enough. The truth is you’ll have to experiment and find something that works with consistency because every lady is different.
You shouldn’t buy her so many drinks that it feels like you’re trying to get her drunk. Instead, if you feel like things are going your way then ask if she wants to take it somewhere more private. If you know a quieter bar, club, or coffee shop nearby that’s always a good place to start. Again, you don’t want to be the one suggesting you go back to your place and bang because it’s just going to creep her out. If she wants to get right to the sex she’ll let you know.
When you’re finally ready to make the move and get on to the sex you should make a point of giving her a reason to come back to your place (or to go back to her place with you) that isn’t about sex. You’ll both know what you’re actually talking about but if it’s never mentioned it just makes it better and it increases your chances are getting laid. Once you’re at someone’s house/apartment you’re guaranteed to have that sex.
