Never assume you’ve sealed the deal on a one-night stand until you’re actually having sex. Until you’ve crossed the threshold, so to speak, there are no guarantees, which is why you need to plan for success. The vast majority of 1 night stands occur when you’ve set out with the intention of getting laid. You shower, you dress your best, and you head out to your favorite bar, club, or lounge and work your magic on the lucky ladies. That means there’s no excuse for slip ups when you actually land a lovely woman that’s eager to hop into bed with you for a night of fun.
Before you leave the house in search of casual sex you need to ensure that you’re putting forth the best version of yourself. Take the most thorough shower ever and give special attention to the naughty parts. With any luck they’ll make an appearance and you don’t want any funky smells emerging if she comes face to face with your junk. If you anticipate sweating perhaps you should take precautions to limit the smells generated but such activity. Once you’re clean as a whistle it’s time to tend to your grooming needs. Is your pubic hair trimmed (ladies don’t like a crazy bush and it carries more smell)? Is your facial hair the way you like it or gone completely? You have manscaped? Choose your outfit carefully to present the best version of yourself and then head out and make your way to your chosen hunting ground.
Let’s skip ahead to the point where you’ve met a girl, charmed her, and convinced her that you’re the guy for a one-night stand. If you have a roommate(s) you should go to her place if at all possible. Some girls are skittish about taking a guy to their place but chances are good your roommate will be the ultimate buzz kill, even if it just means you need to keep the noise down so you don’t disturb his sleep. Ensure that your place is clean. It doesn’t have to sparkle, but empty food containers, dirty clothes, papers, and more strewn about are a major turn off. It’s simple, really. If you keep a sloppy home she’s going to assume you’ll be a sloppy lover.
It’s smart to suggest a nightcap when you get home. A drink is a great way to loosen up and get you on the road to casual sex. However, if you’ve been fooling around in the cab/subway or taken breaks on the walk back to kiss and grope you can skip the booze and go right for the foreplay. Yeah, I said foreplay. Of course you’re going to be all kinds of hot for her but it pays dividends to invest in foreplay. Plus, it’s fun to kiss and suck her all over, finger her, play with her clit, and extend the make out session. You want her to be desperate for penetration just like you will be.
Under no circumstances should you forgo a condom during a 1 night stand. It doesn’t matter what she says and it doesn’t matter what you want. A one-night stand is great but it’s never worth an STD or a pregnancy, both of which are very real possibilities even if she seems like a nice girl and promises she’s on the pill and STD free. Make sure you’re stocked with condoms before you leave and keep them close to the bed (though out of the way; it’s super crass to have them sitting on the nightstand). Now get out there and have some fun with the one night stand babe of your choice.
The vast majority of people want to have sex. Men and women the world over are interested in pleasurable coupling and the internet makes that easier than ever, particularly if you know what you’re doing. If you’re uninformed you’ve reached the right blogpost to change that fact and bring your knowledge to the place it needs to be for a successful sexual search online.
Read reviews of adult dating sites to find the one that works best for you. You’ll need to actually read the text, too. The review score is generally useless since they’re all pretty positive. Instead you want to know the details of how the site works, how many members there are, how often the women respond, etc. You would do well to sign up for multiple sites but since you have to pay you might just want to go with a single site and focus all your energy there. Put up a couple of good pictures that show your body without being naked or gross and put together a profile that is well-written and features good grammar, good spelling, and no internet speak (text abbreviations, mostly, are a great way of having your message ignored).
As a guy on an adult dating site looking to get laid on the internet you’ll be making first contact most of the time. The ladies get too many messages to be looking through profiles so it’s your job to get in contact. That means your first message needs to be good to break through the deluge they receive. Keep it short but make sure there’s some content in the message, not just a stupid line about how hot the girl is or how badly you want to have sex with her. She knows she’s hot and that you want to have sex with her or you wouldn’t be messaging her. Your job is to stand out from the massive number of guys that have sent her messages all looking for the same thing.
Your best bet is to peruse her profile carefully and pick out something you share in common or something that interests you. Comment on it and try to be witty and brief. That will show her that you put in enough effort to look through what she posted, that you guys have something in common, and that you’re bright enough to be witty. For a first contact you shouldn’t go any more in depth since you’ll need something to talk about later.
Don’t push for an in person or on the phone meeting too early. That sort of thing will creep a girl out and likely push her away. Give it enough time that you feel like you know her and assume she feels the same way and then ask. If she turns you down at that point you can move on (you should have multiple irons in the fire anyway).
You should always make sure that you’re clear about your desires without being pervy. If you want a relationship then let her know. If you’re looking for a sexual partner let her know that too. If she’s on an adult dating site then she’s likely not looking for a long term relationship so you don’t have to be coy about your desires. It’s best to know early on if your desires are compatible so you don’t waste more time than necessary. I mentioned earlier that you should have multiple irons in the fire. It’s worth mentioning again because it will help you avoid placing too much pressure or having your expectations too high with one particular girl. If you’re chatting with lots of ladies you’ll come across as confident and calm, two qualities that are much more likely to get you laid online.
Persistence is the number one quality of a successful online sex dater. This is a far different world than online or real world dating and it’s even different than looking for one night stands at bars and clubs. Once you get online and see what you’re dealing with you’ll understand that being persistent and keeping up your confidence are hugely important when trying to find a casual sex partner .
There are a number of sites dedicated to finding casual sex partners and adult dating and still others that cater to both those looking to hook up and those looking to settle down in long term relationships. Some are free and some require a monthly member to contact people and setup dates. They’re almost always worth the money though and the free sites can be a pain since there are so many fake and spam accounts you’ll end up sending messages to nonexistent people and wasting your time.
Here’s the reality of adult dating sites: the ratio of men to women can be scary in terms of the number of guys competing for the affections of a smaller number of women. On some sites it’s ten guys for every one girl. It’s smaller on others but there are always going to be more guys than girls so it can be a challenge. Luckily, it’s not as hard as you might think and if you’re persistent and you keep at it you’ll find a casual sex partner with relative ease.
You’d think that with such a challenging ratio you might never even hear back from a girl but you’d be wrong. The other truth about adult dating sites is that most of the guys are awful. We’ve seen the messages the ladies receive and the vast majority of them are beyond bad. Typically they consist of a line or two of text, capitalization and good grammar are ignored, and the content of the message is rarely something beyond a sloppy come on about how the girl is really hot and the guy wants to have sex with her (the language used is often really crude). In short, everything about the message is a turn off so most of the ladies on an adult dating site aren’t going to be interested in that guy. Instead that message and all the ones like it are going to be deleted.
That’s where you come in. Your message will be well-written, feature capital letters where they belong and have everything spelled correctly. You’ll write it like a mature adult, not a horny teenage boy just looking to dip his wick in something warm for a few minutes until he has an orgasm. The ratio on an adult dating site might be ten guys for every one woman but when nine of those guys are mouth breathing idiots you start to look a lot better.
You’ll still have to be persistent of course, but you can rest easy in the knowledge that you’re not competing against as many guys as you thought you were. Also, if you’re really serious about finding a casual sex partner then you should do anything and everything you can to get in great shape. I know some guys don’t want to hear that but good sex buddies are often determined by the bodies, not the faces. Even if you’re not super good looking you’ll attract lots of ladies with a hard and muscular body and the truth is that anyone can have one as long as he’s willing to work for it. If you’re serious about casual sex partners then you need to hit the gym and get in shape or stay in shape because it’s all about the body.
