The Art Of Picking Up Girls

Millions of words have been written over the years on the art of picking up women, seducing women, running game, etc. Every book purports to have a magical system that helps you nab the girl of your dreams or just the girl of your fantasies for that night. All those books and blogposts are helpful and might actually get you what you want but what they teach all comes down to one thing: confidence. It sounds so simple but if you really look at what you’re being taught it’s all about the confidence. Some guys need a system so they will appear confident. Some guys need a pep talk so they can feel confident. Some guys need specific lines to run so they don’t have to think and thus lose their confidence. That’s what it all comes down to though.

The art of picking up women is all about utilizing your confidence. When a guy uses the worst pickup line you’ve ever heard and the girl actually responds it means that he delivered it with confidence (sometimes it means that he’s incredibly good looking and he could have spilled gibberish from his mouth and picked her up but those guys are confident too so the lesson holds). Pickup lines are incredibly stupid but they serve a purpose: to break the ice. All you’re doing is finding a good way to introduce yourself to a girl. That’s why you can usually just introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink. A simple compliment is a good way to follow that up and segueing into conversation of almost any kind is recommended thereafter. Follow that formula for picking up women and you’ll be amazed at how often it works and at the very least gets you a nice talk with a lovely girl. If you don’t have much experience at this sort of thing you’ll need to practice but you’ll get where you need to be eventually so have faith.

Let’s get a little more specific now. It’s always been a good idea to make the first move but that’s true now more than ever. If you’re interested in a girl then go ahead and talk to her. Introduce yourself, buy her a drink, and start a conversation that gets you on the road to knowing her. If you want her number than ask for it. Don’t be afraid that you’re going to be rejected or that she’s going to feel like you’re somehow being sexist. You’re not; you’re being a man interested in a woman and that’s all there is to it.

You need to avoid being immature at all costs. There is truly no bigger turn off than an immature man. Some guys have an immature sense of humor; if you’re one of those guys you’ll need to table that. Making a girl laugh is great but if your only material is dick and fart jokes you need to put them away and come up with something else. I’m telling you, immaturity is like female repellent and will get you walked away from faster than you can believe. This is #1 to remember when picking up on girls.

Before you introduce yourself to a girl and try to start a conversation you’d be wise to know something about her. Watching her for a few minutes (not in a weird and leering way, of course) would be smart so you can pick up on her behavior and have something to mention when you approach would be smart. Picking up girls is an art take your time and do not rush. This sort of thing will take a little practice but it’s well worth it. Breaking the ice is the hardest part of this whole thing, along with getting comfortable with rejection, which will happen plenty when you put yourself out there.


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Getting A Girls Number Without Asking For it

It’s like a badge of honor when you get a girl’s number . You can parade it around to your friends and play the part of the charming stud that managed to convince a beauty to hand over her digits in the hope that you’ll call her tomorrow and setup a date. Of course, anyone with a history of looking for ladies to love knows that quite often you’re given a fake number or a blatantly wrong number because the girl wasn’t interested and didn’t want to come right out and say no. She just wanted to blow you off without any hassle.

It’s a small victory to get a girl’s number but it’s a huge victory when the girl gives you her number without you having to ask for it . That’s rare and blissful and should be cherished by anyone that pulls it off. Would you like to know how to do it? Not every guy can make it happen but there is something of an art to getting a girl’s number without asking for it. Read on to get some insight into that art.

This isn’t a hard and fast rule but in general it helps to look more like a bad boy. More than any other type of guy the bad boy is the one that makes girls do stupid things they wouldn’t normally do. There’s something that goes on at the subconscious level that makes the bad boy irresistible and thus much more likely to get a number handed to him. Guys that are actually that way almost never end up with a successful long term relationship but that’s not what we’re talking about here so it doesn’t really matter. If you can’t pull off that look then don’t try because you’ll just look like an idiot.

You’ll need to work to make yourself look and seem attractive without it seeming like you’re openly flirting with the girl. That sounds more difficult than it is. Sometimes it’s as simple as dropping a few words from a sentence. One tactic a lot of guys use is picturing a future couple (we would have a great time together in Europe). It’s exceptionally effective but it ensures that you’ll need to ask for her number because you’re making it clear you’re already thinking about being with her. If you shift that a little bit to talk about an exciting future or your exciting life while leaving her out you put the onus on her to pursue you, thus having to give you her number. The trick is to talk about your exciting life and leave her out of it while still making it seem like you want to be with her. That’s something that takes practice so you’ll have to work on it to get it just right.

If you can drop a few hints that make the girl worry less about rejection it would be a smart move. Saying something simple about how you’re only available for a few weeks will give you a good chance at a once night stand or brief sexual relationship type of thing. You should also give her a chance to slip you her number while no one else can see so she doesn’t have to worry about any embarrassment. Most of the time women are asked for their numbers so she would be going outside the norm if she gives it up without being asked. Be kind and let her do that in private and you have a better chance of receiving it and down the road hopefully hooking up.


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