What Exactly Is Sex Dating

Isn’t sex dating the same thing as regular dating? While dating hopefully includes sexual intercourse, sex dating is a whole different thing that’s focused around the pursuit or pleasure above all else and in doing so without the emotional attachments that lead to long term relationships. You’re doing it only for the sex and one of the key components of this type of relationship is that both parties go into it well aware of that fact. That simple twist on the typical formula means that problems are far less likely to crop up (nothing is perfect though and you may find that a fuck buddies relationship becomes something else or that one party wants it to become something else).

Before you try and enter into the world of sex dating you need to decide if you can handle a casual sex relationship. For some people it’s simply not possible, and that includes guys. Certainly the appeal of the relationship makes sense and they want to be able to have casual sex and orgasm and then move on, but sometimes it just doesn’t work because the emotional commitment can’t be avoided. If you’re that guy then don’t bother with a fuck buddy relationship because it will be nothing but pain when it doesn’t work out in the end.

Once you know you’re in the mood to become fuck buddies with a girl you can pursue with vigor the relationship you want. Your sex dating experience can begin in a bar, club, or other night spot but that has always been and continues to be difficult. If you get lucky it will most likely be a one night stand and she won’t want to be fuck buddies. You’re also likely to find a girl interested in a relationship. What you’re not likely to find is a girl interested in sex dating. That’s where the internet comes in.

Sex dating didn’t really gain steam as a popular means of sexual interaction until the internet came along. Before that you were stuck going to clubs and trying your best to find a fuck buddy but it was a difficult task that few men had the dedication to pull off. Now all you need is a profile on one of the many sex dating sites (you can find reviews here on It’s Just Sex) available and you’re well on your way to success.

One of the incorrect assumptions of those sites and sex dating in general is that it’s really easy. It’s not terribly difficult, of course, but you can’t be a fat slug of a man that never showers and hasn’t combed his hair in years and expect to have a steady stream of women ready to pleasure you. You need to be at least a little fuckable if you hope to have a successful sex dating experience, so get your shit together if you’re going to take the plunge.

Even women that want to be sex buddies want to be swept off their feet. They’re not whores, in other words. They’re not going to show up, rip their clothes off, and get naughty with you (unless you look like an Adonis, in which case that will actually happen all the time). Sex dating is similar to real dating in that way. You need to make an effort to charm her and convince her that you’re the right man to sleep with and more importantly, to begin a relationship as fuck buddies with. If you put in a little effort it all comes pretty easily though, so don’t worry too much about it. Have fun out there!

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Becoming a Master at the art of conversation

There’s a lot of work that goes into sleeping with a girl for the first time no matter how you’re doing it. Whether you meet her through an adult dating site, at a party, at a bar, etc, you’ll have to prove your worth before she’ll lie horizontal with you sans clothing. One of the skills you’ll have to display is the ability to have a conversation. It seems like a simple thing but every guy has blown it with at least a few women because he couldn’t keep the conversation flowing. It can send a slew of bad signals to the girl. You don’t like her enough to be interested in talking, you’re an idiot, you aren’t listening, etc. Any of the above and more can convince her to keep her legs closed and send you on your way even if you thought it was a sure thing.

When dealing with members of either sex a basic rule of conversation is that people love to talk about themselves. That’s why you can never go wrong steering the conversation to the girl and what interests her. This is where guys tend to get tripped up though. The ones that screw it up think that talking about her means that you ask a series of rapid fire questions in the hope of soaking up as much information as possible. What you’re really doing is both boring the girl and making her feel like you’re an interviewer questioning her for a job of a weird stalker that is far too interested in the minutiae of her life.


Instead you should direct the conversation to something she’s interested in. It’s best if the topic is more meaningful than the weather but you shouldn’t go too deep, at least not the first time you meet her. This is where listening comes in. You need to finely hone your listening skills so you can pick up on her interests and discuss them with her. She’ll give you more than enough information to bounce some of it back on her even if you don’t know the first thing about her favorite things in the world.

The best reason to be a good listener is that it impresses the person you’re talking to. It makes them feel liked, which often turns into them liking you. The mind can be a magical thing if you know how to work it just a little bit. Listening means you’re invested and being invested means that you like her and perhaps even more importantly, you care enough to devote yourself to listening.This is very important when sex dating.

When in conversation with a lovely lady you’d like to bring home make sure you offer eye contact frequently. Holding it for too long can be creepy but always check back in to make sure she’s interested and to show her that you’re interested too. Just like you she wants to know that you’re keen on her, that you’re eager to know more, and that you’d like to sleep with her, believe it or not.

If you’re in the mood for casual sex then it’s important you not let the conversation go on for too long. If you get too familiar then you become a friend or possible boyfriend and you quickly move out of the casual sex zone. Plus, if she’s interested in you persist in talking for hours without asking for her number she’s going to be absolutely certain that you’re not interested and she won’t believe it if and when you do ask for her number.


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